Monday, November 17, 2014

Dumb is NEVER cute. Stop it.

Thanks to a friend, (shoutout to Rebecca!) we have a topic that will probably just turn into a giant rant for me, but whatever, you guys signed up for this.

Ladies. (I say ladies because we are the ones who usually feel the need to dumb down our intelligence for the sake of other people.)


Never. Never ever.

Why do some of us feel that it is necessary to play dumb to attract other people we want to date?

Why do some of us feel the need to "dumb ourselves down" around other women?

Because dumb is easy. 

It's easy to get along with, it's easy to deal with, it's easy to be around.

People don't have to put any work into dating you, grabbing your attention or being your life. That's a problem. People should have to put effort into their relationships, either intimate ones or friendships.

If you feel like you need to pretend to be dumb in order to attract that person you're interested in, then chances are that person is not for you.

You shouldn't be ashamed of your intelligence. If you're smart, then be smart! The people around you who care about you will appreciate that you're being honest with who you are.

Men don't do this. (And I don't mean men as in "men do this and boys do that" I mean men as in those who are male, either born that way or identify that way.)

And we shouldn't either. It's insulting to yourself and everyone around you when you do it.

The reason why the people in this video act stupid and ditzy when asked to do things "like a girl" is because we perpetuate it. We allow ourselves to be viewed that way. WE allow ourselves to act that way.

Maybe it's a self esteem thing. Maybe some people have been told so many times for so long that they are really dumb. That they are stupid and worthless.

So they act stupid because they think that's who they are. THAT'S BULLSHIT TOO.

It's not who you are.

Acting dumb isn't cute. It's not attractive, nor is it funny. It's hurtful. It's a setback. It makes people think you're simple and don't deserve the respect that they would give someone who doesn't act like that. Instead you just get the pat on the head like a child would.

Either way, continuing to do it doesn't help anyone view us as the strong, smart, badass women that we are. Which sucks.

Acting stupid to get people's attention means you're selling yourself short. Your mind isn't something to be bartered, or something you can trade off in order make someone like you.

If you're afraid that people will feel intimidated by your brain, then screw 'em. You didn't need them anyway.

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